Blame it on the wind, blame it on religion, but whatever you do? Don’t say the truth!
I thought I had heard them all…
But this takes the cookie-
One of the things that I hear the most from women about what drives them nuts about men, is this-
The inability to take responsibility when caught doing something “wrong”.
Now, “wrong” has a lot of variations according to the one judging.
But, in most cases and with a lot of men, the “wasn’t me” excuse seems to be an innate reflex.
In other words, it is always someone or something else’s fault.
“Why didn’t you call when you said you would?”, she asks. His response?- “ Because my cell phone battery went dead and the charger in the car all the sudden broke and then a pack of gorillas stole all my friends phones and none of the pay phones would take my change and the phone at the bar got struck by lightening and….”
How about an “ I forgot to” or “Didn’t feel like it”? or “ Because I was too busy talking to the hot girls standing next to us?”
Why is it so hard for men to state the obvious? And why is it so easy for women to pretend fake belief in the excuse, all the while keeping a mental check list of white lies in the back of their minds for future use and weaponry?
The “WASN”T ME “ Syndrome- a vicious cycle that both sexes equally play a part in.
Now, this especially comes out when men are caught in the act of cheating.
You could literally walk in on them in the act and they will still cling to the “wasn’t me” like a man overboard clinging to a life preserver.
I thought I had heard some pretty creative excuses-
However, I have to say, the excuse I am about to talk about made me reconsider…
In the news today, there is a story about a singer who has just been “caught” having multiple, what he calls, “spiritual” relationships with women other than his wife.
Spiritual a.k.a. sexual.
His excuse?
He is blaming his religion-
Yep, stating that his faith allows for multiple wives/partners and this has caused him to cheat.
Although, his wife was completely oblivious to the loop hole in their religion.
Really?
Blame it on alien abduction or someone put a gun to your head and said that if you didn’t cheat on your wife you would never see your family again…I could have more respect for these than blaming a religion that you choose to follow and then all the sudden need to make a scapegoat of your hormones.
What has happened to inner integrity?
I am not talking about morals. I am talking about choices and responsibility going hand in hand.
If you are going to choose something- choose it with all your heart, mind and body. Back up that choice with bravado
Or, don’t make the choice at all.
Inner integrity takes balls.
Men wonder why they are not understood and not accepted for how they are by women.
You have to show your true face to be truly accepted. With the infidelity rate sky high. With overwhelming surge and success of porn.
Why can’t we acknowledge the elephant in the room?
If, instead of facing the breakdown we have in relationships in the area of sexuality with fear, we can face it with eyes willing to see and ears willing to hear? If we can take it apart brick by brick to see what both of us, men and women, are choosing to contribute to the mess? Maybe then we can begin to understand and accept ourselves.
Then comes acceptance of each other.
Then comes real LOVE. Transparent love. The true definition of intimacy.
MEN LOVE SEX and are not made to only think of and desire ONE woman.
MEN ARE NOT HAIRY FEMALES!!!
Even though women want them to be just that- think and feel like women in a masculine body.
I could write a book on this alone…
Oh wait, I am doing just thatJ
Stay tuned…
Tags: cheating, infidelity, integrity, religion, sex
Another great post…
Thanks for sharing this. Accountability is really what it’s all about. I’d even go further as to say that transparency is really the way to go. Being honest really never hurts when you know that life will be much easier on the back end.
Dan- I agree…transparency is the key and is just as you say, much easier in the end…