Come into the void, no pun intended…
Throughout time, we as a society have always given a man’s tendencies and impulses a free ticket. Men seem to have gotten a get out of jail for free card. Think about it… when a man has a wondering eye, sleeps around, even cheats there is a sort of shoulder shrug; boys will be boy’s mentality. We have pretty much concluded and accepted that men have a natural drive to procreate, which in turn causes him to want a variety of women.
Now, when a woman is emotional, attached and even “clingy” there is no mercy or understanding thrown her way. In fact, a woman gets the go to jail card. Do not pass go… do not collect 200 dollars…No compassion or even a single acknowledgement that hey, a majority of women have this natural tendency so it must be there for a reason???
Men say all the time that they don’t get and will never understand how women think. Women say all the time they don’t get but will try to change how a man thinks…
Well, I am about to give a little insight into both worlds and I am going to start with what I know best, women.
Come into the void…
I am going to get a little deep here so bear with me, and yes I am sure this article will be filled with innuendos but not intentionally… well, most of the time anyway…
Women are receivers. This is obvious; down to the basic science of sex. Women receive; men give. Women are internal and men external. Are you with me so far?
Good… when a man is having sex, most the time unless he is in practice of Tantra, the goal and drive subconsciously is to empty himself. In more ways than one. A male orgasm is not only a physical reaction. It is a chemical reaction and I will say a spiritual reaction as well. A man empties himself out mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally in that moment. He is in a blank space, if even for a second. There is a release on so many levels that it is ridiculous to even play ignorance as if it is merely just a man getting off…
So men are walking around this earth everyday with a natural urge to empty out… to give. Even if he is not conscious of it and even if he hasn’t been connected enough with himself to realize it is more than just a sexual drive.
Where are men longing to empty themselves out, you might ask? The void…
Woman; she walks around all day with an underlining longing. It is ever so subtle. And most women may not even be aware of this yet in themselves. But it is there. Longing for what? It could be anything. More romance, better communication from her lover, better pay, a pedicure, that her hair turned out better today, that it was sunnier, that the light would turn green, that her favorite song would come on… If you could sit inside a women’s mind for 60 seconds it would be want, want, want, want and want. All day and night long. It is a natural tendency in us, how we were made. Yet, where is the compassion for our nature? No, most of the time this is considered annoying…
But let me say this, it is this void that is the other half of why this planet has evolved since the beginning of time. And it is time it be acknowledged and even respected.
Just as when a man is not connected with himself and doesn’t have the desire to deepen over time, he will ride the whims of his drive till the end, never leaving the surface to dive into the depths of his feelings; a woman, when not connected to herself with the desire to deepen over time, will never get past the feeling of needing something from outside of herself to complete and fulfill her longing…
So men, you wonder why a woman clings. Well a woman who is not whole in self esteem will be a woman whose longings control her. Almost like she is on autopilot, watching as her insecurities and needs drive her life. Like a control panel from 1-10… Trust me, the control panel of longing will always be there… but depending on a woman’s self esteem, it will either be very subtle, somewhere in the middle or off the charts!
And in true feminine style, it is ever changing at any given time of the day…
How can we ever believe that two people who are walking around out of balance in their own skin and tendencies are ever going to come together and complete each other? If a woman is needy and the man she is with is overly driven to empty out with half the state they are living in, this is a recipe for DDD.
Drama, damage and destruction…
So what is the answer? Well, I believe we need to take an inner inventory of our own tendencies. It doesn’t have to be intense, just even acknowledging this in ourselves first and then realizing it in our partners too; with compassion. And then, just like a control on a radio, turn either our drives or our longings to a place of balance within ourselves…
Let’s give ourselves and each other a get out of jail for free card today.;) And kiss and make up…
A little love and understanding is the remedy Ladies and Gents…